Sunday, May 23, 2021

protect the dignity of... even a child

 chores
give water to plants
if stop whining when told get a star
return toys and games
stay in bed at bed time... but when normal bed time?
dressing self.
insted of these age appropriate chores look at my story?
when my parents told me "wash the dishes" and "religion obligates me to do whatever they say including wash dishes" i started to stand on a chair to wash dishes.
the next day at school i made the effort to ask the other kids in my class if they wash dishes they said "wash? are you crazy?? i only set the dishes before meals, your parents are crazy to make you WASH.
then my parents were ANGRY at me for telling kuz his parents phoned them and called them crazy for that chore.
insted they said "make your bed" throw the blanket to smooth but the blanket was too big for my child body short arms i was even shorter than other kids in my class so i asked the other kids how do you spread your blanket smooth? they replied blanket? we FOLD clothing after laundry your parents are CRAZY to tell you to throw the blanket smooth. luckily his parents also  phoned mine to tell them i should do "age appropriate chores" like giving water to plants and  setting the dishes on the table... but we did not have plants to water and i was too short for eyes seeing  the table until age 8! luckily i saw the response of the other kids and KNEW my parents were crazy and luckily the kids told their parents who, i knew, must have phoned my parents when my parents blamed me for the other parents criticizing them.
what chores are age appropriate? as above FOLD laundry give WATER TO PLANTS, set the utensils before meals... but how reach a cabinet?? only the spoons and forks from drawers! vacuuming if tall enuf. dusting tables and low shelves. put groceries in place.
only those common chores reward for "dressing self"  finding a pair of soks and dressing etc., put groceries in cabinet and frij. but not carry heavy groceries. even return TOYS after games is a chore but not WASHING dishes that is for adults, the rich hire a worker cleaner or buy a machine washer and the others, well the adult washes the dishes but child only apt chores as above not wash dishes or big blankets and sheets just fold laundry but my idiot parents did not say fold  laundry and then complained "you do nothing"- i can fold laundry " i replied but they would rather prefer "have complaint" than have help folding laundry. luckily i did not have to throw blanket after the other parents criticised mine and did not need to wash dishes after the other parent criticised mine so what did we do? we HAD a dishmachine !! but my parnets had been to stingy to use it! so insted of me washing we each put ours in the machine... so that is the difference between lies which are permitted and steereotype which is forbidden because stereotypes are not lies... too stingy to use dish-washer until criticised... thne we each put our one plate in machine same as his family not one kid do all plates. not carry heavy groceies until older. 8 year old kids are nt "clark kent" for heavy.
and if ma washes dishes until kid is four so should kid "wash the next 3 years every night?" when iis dad's turn?? dad said "when you are seven" !! solets trade! NOW dad's turn and mine when 7... but truth is even 7 the chores is vacuuming or "put groceries" not wash dishes despite older than 4.

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